Good words from a friend that can apply to many situations in life...
"Getting knocked down can happen to anyone. That's easy. It's what you do to get back up that shows your real character." -- C. Brann
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Showing posts with label strength. Show all posts
Showing posts with label strength. Show all posts
Monday, July 20, 2015
Friday, April 10, 2015
12 Angry Women (But Not Really)
While scrolling through my facebook feed a few weeks ago, I noticed a listicle, 12 Women With Perfect Responses For Why They Don't Have Kids, with quotes from famous women without children with their thoughts about not having children. In some ways it was refreshing to see since facebook can be flooded with pictures, posts, blog highlights and advertisements of pregnancy, babies and motherhood. When skimming the news websites, I will also notice articles about parenting, baby making and children. This mini article seemed like a departure from so much of what feels like is being shoved into the forefront. It is not very often that I will come across things about people living childless or childfree. The women highlighted in the article came across to me as strong, confident and unapologetic of living a life without children of their own. They did not respond in a way that was diminishing motherhood, but presenting living the alternative as good, fulfilling and happy.
The article was good timing because I was feeling determined not to let March get me down, as it has typically been a difficult month for me. It was a bit of a pick me up as if to say that if I do not become a mother that I will be okay. I want to be a mother, but I don't know if it will happen.
I had thought about sharing the article in my facebook wall, but then I hesitated. I toggled back and forth if I should or not. I found the article to be empowering and wanted to share it. But then I did not want to come across as some kind of baby/motherhood/parenting hating brat. I was not sure how it would be received. On top of that, with T~ and I planning our wedding, I feel pretty confident that there are people wondering when we are going to start our family...as there have already been comments and questions. While I thought the article's title and content was to the point and honest, I didn't know if it could read as harsh. I was worried it could lead to further unwanted assumptions and inquiries. So, I decided not to post it. Torn between wanting to spread the conversation about living childless or childfree and wanting to protect my privacy.
The article was good timing because I was feeling determined not to let March get me down, as it has typically been a difficult month for me. It was a bit of a pick me up as if to say that if I do not become a mother that I will be okay. I want to be a mother, but I don't know if it will happen.
I had thought about sharing the article in my facebook wall, but then I hesitated. I toggled back and forth if I should or not. I found the article to be empowering and wanted to share it. But then I did not want to come across as some kind of baby/motherhood/parenting hating brat. I was not sure how it would be received. On top of that, with T~ and I planning our wedding, I feel pretty confident that there are people wondering when we are going to start our family...as there have already been comments and questions. While I thought the article's title and content was to the point and honest, I didn't know if it could read as harsh. I was worried it could lead to further unwanted assumptions and inquiries. So, I decided not to post it. Torn between wanting to spread the conversation about living childless or childfree and wanting to protect my privacy.
Monday, October 21, 2013
Gravity
Over the weekend I saw the movie Gravity. It was the first time I saw a 3D movie. I was a little nervous because sometimes I've experienced some motion sickness watching a couple of IMAX films. However, I think I picked a good one to see in 3D because they didn't seem to over do the effects and the movie was well suited for it. Plus, the length of the movie was appropriate in that it wasn't too long and told its story in 90 minutes. It was a good experience and a pretty good movie. (I actually removed a few "goods" from this paragraph. Good sums it up well.)
SPOILER ALERT: While the movie was about troubles in space and trying to return to Earth, it was also about grief, learning to let go and getting back to the business of living life. Sandra Bullock's character has lost a daughter who died in a freak playground accident. Since then, she has been emotionally stuck and just passing the days immersed in her work as a way to escape and withdraw from the world and others.
At one point she expresses a want for the silence in space. But, when that silence comes after being cut off from mission control and being left on her own, it does not seem to acquiesce the pain of loss. She must make a choice to live and really live or die. There is no longer an in between. It is when she nears an emotional rock bottom that she chooses life and moves into the space of letting go without forgetting and leans into the strength of hope--hope of a new future, a new life.
The story in the movie spoke to me, reminding me that there is life after loss. And I need to give myself credit for being so bold to take up that strength to propel my life forward. I did not just give up and get stuck. I've moved on with my life and there is still joy and happiness to be had. Yes, I have a new career, but there is more. I'm making new friends, and slowly building a support system in Florida--to add to my one in Ohio and Pennsylvania and in the IF community. I have a loving, thoughtful, and giving boyfriend whom I find myself falling in love with over and over. And I am blessed with a family who loves me unconditionally.
I need to remember my own strength and dig deep and use it. I have to trust in myself and not hold back.
SPOILER ALERT: While the movie was about troubles in space and trying to return to Earth, it was also about grief, learning to let go and getting back to the business of living life. Sandra Bullock's character has lost a daughter who died in a freak playground accident. Since then, she has been emotionally stuck and just passing the days immersed in her work as a way to escape and withdraw from the world and others.
At one point she expresses a want for the silence in space. But, when that silence comes after being cut off from mission control and being left on her own, it does not seem to acquiesce the pain of loss. She must make a choice to live and really live or die. There is no longer an in between. It is when she nears an emotional rock bottom that she chooses life and moves into the space of letting go without forgetting and leans into the strength of hope--hope of a new future, a new life.
The story in the movie spoke to me, reminding me that there is life after loss. And I need to give myself credit for being so bold to take up that strength to propel my life forward. I did not just give up and get stuck. I've moved on with my life and there is still joy and happiness to be had. Yes, I have a new career, but there is more. I'm making new friends, and slowly building a support system in Florida--to add to my one in Ohio and Pennsylvania and in the IF community. I have a loving, thoughtful, and giving boyfriend whom I find myself falling in love with over and over. And I am blessed with a family who loves me unconditionally.
I need to remember my own strength and dig deep and use it. I have to trust in myself and not hold back.
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