Monday, April 27, 2015


My favorite parts of a wedding:

  • The groom and bride seeing each other for the first time.
  • The bride's dress.
  • Cake!!!

This weekend T~ and I went to Ohio for wedding planning, which included meeting our baker about the cake.  I love wedding cake.  I love the creativity in the decorating.  And even more so, I love eating wedding cake.  Honestly, when I go to some weddings, I look forward more to the cake than the appetizers or entree.  I'd almost put cake at the top of the list.  But the day really is about the bride and the groom, which I enjoy celebrating with them and feel it is an honor to be invited to share in their special day.

Anyways, we got to take home samples of cake and filling to try different combinations.  I got to savor sampling wedding cake all weekend long.  Cake!!  Favorite part of my weekend.

I  may ask my DJ to play this song at my wedding.  :)  It makes me want to dance whenever I hear it.

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Monday, April 20, 2015

NIAW--Quiet Observation

It is National Infertility Awareness week.  I am happy to see a few people have posted things on FB.  However, I am choosing to quietly sit on the sidelines.  Timing and privacy are important to me right now.  Maybe I'll post something another year.  But this week, my heart is thinking about all of those who have been touched by IF.  You are not alone.

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Friday, April 10, 2015

12 Angry Women (But Not Really)

While scrolling through my facebook feed a few weeks ago, I noticed a listicle, 12 Women With Perfect Responses For Why They Don't Have Kids, with quotes from famous women without children with their thoughts about not having children.  In some ways it was refreshing to see since facebook can be flooded with pictures, posts, blog highlights and advertisements of pregnancy, babies and motherhood.  When skimming the news websites, I will also notice articles about parenting, baby making and children.  This mini article seemed like a departure from so much of what feels like is being shoved into the forefront.  It is not very often that I will come across things about people living childless or childfree.  The women highlighted in the article came across to me as strong, confident and unapologetic of living a life without children of their own.  They did not respond in a way that was diminishing motherhood, but presenting living the alternative as good, fulfilling and happy.

The article was good timing because I was feeling determined not to let March get me down, as it has typically been a difficult month for me.  It was a bit of a pick me up as if to say that if I do not become a mother that I will be okay.  I want to be a mother, but I don't know if it will happen.

I had thought about sharing the article in my facebook wall, but then I hesitated.  I toggled back and forth if I should or not.  I found the article to be empowering and wanted to share it.  But then I did not want to come across as some kind of baby/motherhood/parenting hating brat.  I was not sure how it would be received.  On top of that, with T~ and I planning our wedding, I feel pretty confident that there are people wondering when we are going to start our there have already been comments and questions.  While I thought the article's title and content was to the point and honest,  I didn't know if it could read as harsh.  I was worried it could lead to further unwanted assumptions and inquiries.  So, I decided not to post it.  Torn between wanting to spread the conversation about living childless or childfree and wanting to protect my privacy.