Some years are better than others. This was not one of them. This year I felt angry leading into Mother's Day. It is difficult to avoid social media. Mother's Day related posts on fb are not just restricted to the day. I feel that the trend on my feed this year was a bunch of "what moms really want for Mother's Day" memes. These were not sweet sentiments. These were gripey expressions of wanting more alone time, not wanting to wear crappy handmade jewelry and frustration about missteps in gift giving. The memes screamed Mom Club.
The work of being a mother is difficult. It is a job for life. It is important to make time for yourself. It is polite to accept gifts with grace. However, if someone has been unintentionally hurt by someone's gift giving choice, there may be better tact to share this information. As a person who has struggled with becoming a mother and who still dreams of one day becoming a mother, these memes feel ungrateful, insensitive and hurtful.
On the eve of Mother's Day, I wrote a brief comment on a few of the originator's memes, from where it seemed created. Generally, it expressed validation that mothers work hard and need time for themselves. But, it seems ungrateful to be complaining when there are women whom would love to have a child express their love for their mom, a person whom that child feels they are the most wonderful, loving and beautiful person in the world. There was no response.
The next day was difficult getting out of bed. I just wanted to crawl into a hole. Lately, I have felt in a dark place about motherhood and feel like it may not happen. I called my mom and wished her a Happy Mother's Day. I wish I could be closer to home. I was glad my sister was home to spend the afternoon with my parents. The Cavs won, so that made my mom happy. We sent texts back and forth about it. I love my mom.